My friends and family, being the lovely folks that they are, were wholeheartedly supportive of this idea. Gifts for the day included an e-subscription to one of my favorite magazines, some cookies from Baked, a few albums I've had my eye on, a Runcible Spoon gift certificate, some creative recycled mail, a trip to Story, Indiana, a homemade dinner, and a beautifully curated collection of NPR podcast episodes. Most importantly, though, I was fortunate enough to hear from parents, aunts, grandmas, cousins, classmates, and old friends on Tuesday. It was the messages, calls, comments, and cards (see this beautiful electronic one below) that REALLY made the day special.
What's interesting about birthdays and other holidays when gifts are exchanged, is that not giving something can feel wrong. Certainly, the spirit of most any holiday is giving, but thinking outside the box and gifting a warm meal, an experience, or a donation to a bigger cause can be even more meaningful. Based upon this realization, I've got one "Less But Better" rule to add this week:
If you want less, you may have to ASK for it
It may seem counter-intuitive, but when the norm is more stuff, you may have to actively ask for less. Whether this means explaining your crazy class project to your grandma or telling the organization tabling on campus that you really don't want the free frisbees they are peddling, it might feel uncomfortable at first. We might not know how to explain that the free promotional t-shirt is more of a burden than a benefit. Some people who explain this phenomenon recommend that "refuse" be placed at the top of the three (or four, or five?) Rs of waste reduction. Sometimes, we have to refuse to take things just because they are free. Now, asking for a shift in gifting habits might be a little easier, especially if your family and friends are as wonderfully supportive as mine. I hope these same people feel comfortable asking me for what they really want for their birthdays. There's nothing better than being able to give a gift that you KNOW the recipient will love.
One last note, a few weeks ago I found a little slip of paper that I must have put in my wallet years ago! It was a quote I really enjoyed and wanted to remember. It looks like I've actually been thinking about "Less But Better" for a while now:
Have a great week, everyone! :)





